When Did You Last Make A New Friend?

It’s always better to have a few good friends, than a lot of acquaintances, but you’re never too old to make a new friend.

As happens more than we like to admit, we should learn from our children. When you’re little, making friends is a daily occurrence. It rarely occurs to children that someone won’t like them, or that they’ll have nothing in common – they assume they have something to offer. You do too.

We often become too stuck in our ways to try new things, including meeting new people, but it can be hugely enriching.

Despite our world being more populated than ever, there are far too many lonely people around. It’s true that most friendships start with shared experiences, but brand new people with fresh perspectives are also great to know. As adult, we tend to put up barriers so that we don’t have to take risks, which extends to friendships.

It only takes a gesture however. It can be as simple as striking up a conversation in a cafe, or complimenting a stranger at a social gathering. Most people will respond to genuine kindness and interest. If you find that you really do have something in common with a new person, maintain contact. Suggest another opportunity for a catchup, or chat via email. It may lead to many laughs or sincere support.

Don’t judge. Just because someone may look a little different, or seem like a loner, it doesn’t mean they aren’t open to new friends. If you get to know someone new, you may learn something as well as having a great time.

Good friendships take time and effort to cultivate, but as with a garden, the results are often spectacular!