I don’t doubt you love your kids but wouldn’t it be a pity if your kids did. Here are some tips to make sure they feel loved.
Spend lots of time with them.
Honestly, I didn’t say that just to make you feel bad, but if you are typical a twenty-first century parent, you are very, very busy. Our busy-ness is probably the single biggest enemy to our families. A well worn but still true phrase is, “Love for children is spelt T – I – M – E.” If you can’t salvage more time, then at least make intelligent and creative use of the time you do have with them. Tell stories in the car. Sing songs as you do chores together. Mute the TV during the ads and have a natter about what you’ve been watching.
Watch your tone.
Does your love for your children soften your vocal chords and lift the corners of your mouth? Allow it to. You might be bubbling with love in your heart but if your face is sour and your voice is snappy, the message might be getting confused.
Just say it.
There are many ways to show love, but don’t forget to actually just say it. We get shy, even in our own homes, and sometimes things have been soured up with tensions and fights, but it is never a dumb thing to say “I love you” (to your kids, anyway. Saying it to colleagues at work may at times verge on being a dumb thing).
There are lots of ways to show your love, but those three will be a good start: time, tone and actually just saying it.
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- 10 years ago
These three things are VERY important in a child’s life. My mother missed out very badly on all three accounts: as a child I thought that was the way things were but as I grew up and now in my late 60s, I am saddened at my mother’s lack of parenting skills when my brother and I were children and we both are very sad that we cannot recover this lost time of what should have been happy childhood memories.