How To Succeed Socially Online

No one is suggesting online socialising in any way makes up for physically getting out of the house and meeting up with friends and family – or inviting them over to yours. But for many, life without any form of online social interaction is not only unrealistic, it would now be considered by most as – well –  a little antisocial! So what do you do if you simply don’t have the knack of socialising online – if your Facebook posts result in almost zero feedback, or your attempts to start threads lead nowhere? The answer is to follow the advice of those who are having success – and here are a few of their top tips:

First find your tribe

When first venturing into online socialising, look for a group supporting an interest you are already proficient at (such as gardening), and one connected with an interest you wish to begin. This enables you to both offer and ask for advice – fundamentals in the key to successful online socialising.

Be bold

The great thing about online socialising, is it’s not difficult to extricate yourself from a connection. So make as many comments, and ask and answer as many questions as you like. There’s no need to keep up the correspondence when it no longer feels satisfying.

Brief is best

Online communication, at least for a start, is best kept brief. Anything more may suggest you’re too eager or needy – and this may deter others from responding. So, if you can assist someone with your knowledge, do so in as few words as possible (they can always ask questions if they need to).

Compliment

Compliments (when genuine) encourage connection. So whether you like a recipe, a photo or an opinion, don’t be afraid to say so. Try it out on our Facebook page.

Ask questions

If there’s something you want to know, ask it! People love to help, and you’ll be surprised by the number of responses you receive. Build on these by thanking the respondent and asking for clarification where necessary.

Add a photo

Nothing grabs attention more than a photo. So whether it’s a comment on the season, or a question about a problem with your lawn mower, take a snap (mid distance or close-ups pack the most punch), and add it to your post.

Read it over!

Face to face communication gives a thousand clues about what we’re saying. Written communication doesn’t carry those nuances. So before you post, read over your words to double check for any unintended meaning.

Don’t take it personally

If you receive a comment that makes you feel uncomfortable, don’t respond. There are social media users who specialise in poor behaviour. Your best line of defence is to block further communication (learn how to do this on your chosen sites before you begin posting).

Be inquisitive

Starting an online topic of conversation (referred to as a ‘thread’) can be very satisfying. One of the best ways to do it is to initially refrain from committing yourself to any one point of view. That way, you don’t open yourself up to attack or criticism. For example, instead of posting: “Rhododendrons aren’t my thing. How do you feel about them?” try “I’m starting a new garden bed and I’m wondering about featuring rhododendrons. What are your thoughts on these plants?”

Staying safe

Social media can be rewarding, fun, and a great way to find company and friends. But before you embark on it, make sure you know how to keep yourself safe online. One site that can help you with this is Netsafe. Be sure to read its advice.

Social media offers a world fun and interest. It’s also a way to practise social skills in an unhurried environment. Take it slowly, and have a ball!