It doesn’t take much encouragement to fall into a rut of negativity – one where we see only the downside of everything from ageing to activism! One of the biggest contributors to personal negativity can be the people we associate with. Negative people view the world through a lens of criticism and complaint, and they encourage us to double down on the world, too. As we age, it’s important to embrace a positive outlook on life, one that builds our confidence and helps us to continue growing in mind, body, and spirit. One of the best ways to become a positive person, is to surround yourself with positive relationships – and it’s never too late to do it. Test-drive the steps below to help oust the negative and invite in the positive!
Start with yourself
Become a mindful listener of others as well as yourself. Instead of simply accepting negative comment from a friend (about yourself or others), challenge it (even if it’s only in your mind) by looking for two positives to balance their opinion. If you hear yourself being negative (even if it’s only about the weather), look for the bright side (yes, it might be raining – again – but it’s a great excuse to settle down on the sofa with a book!). Developing a positive attitude takes time, so be patient with yourself. Keep a diary of your achievements until positivity becomes a habit.
Seek out positive relationships
Being in the company of positive people is inspiring, and helps you to become a more positive person, too. Positive people are all around you; they may be family members (nieces, nephews, and grandchildren) you have spent little time with. Or someone you know from a club or work. Take the plunge and get to know them better by actively listening to them, commenting positively on their social media posts, or inviting them to meet up for a coffee or a walk. Don’t wait for them to take the initiative, and don’t feel knocked back if some have an already full social life (positive people have busy diaries!).
Inhabit positive spaces
‘Live the dream,’ has become almost a cliche, but it still holds vital meaning. If you know who you’d rather be (rather than the negative person you suspect you’ve become), identify your interests and head in that direction to find others who will encourage them. If you want to become active, sign up for an exercise class or walking group. If you want to help others, seek out volunteering opportunities. If you enjoy gardening or writing (or even if you think you might), look for social groups where you can find others with similar aspirations. When you are in the company of like-minded individuals you’ll feel the positive energy grow your own positivity.
Speak out!
Don’t be afraid to speak your dreams out loud, because the response you receive—positive or negative—will help make them a reality. Positive comments will encourage you, and negative responses will make you more determined! So, if you want to become fitter, let others know you’ve (for example) joined aqua jogging classes or you’re turning up for Saturday Morning Park Run (and walk) events. Who knows – they may even ask to join you!
Turning your world around by becoming a positive, rather than a negative, person requires effort. Every step you take to achieve your goal will be a step towards better ageing!