When it comes to relationships, we all know that after time, we become comfortable, and perhaps complacent, and, yes, at times need to work hard to keep the love and intimacy going. This is true for any relationship.
Do you remember when you first met your partner? Every time you saw them, you smiled, you wanted to be closer to them? You would be sitting at work, when suddenly you had a call or an email from them, and you would be on a little high for half an hour or so, just because you were so happy to hear from them. This “honeymoon phase” is intoxicating, and makes you feel like the most special person on Earth.
So, after many years together, and the shine has worn off, how do we get back to these feelings?
Well, the fact of the matter is that things will never be exactly how they were – a constant honeymoon glow – but you can still get some daily butterflies from just practicing little things within your relationship.
The post-it love note, placed where your partner is least expecting it, is a sweet way to remind them that you love them and you’re thinking of them. Even if you aren’t feeling it, you can try this trick to bring a smile to their face.
Try out these suggestions where they’re sure to find them:
- “I can’t wait until you get home!”
- “I swear you get better looking every single day!”
- “You’re always in my dreams and my heart”
- “Play time later?”
Wear nice lingerie or underwear
We can all get into that routine of wearing our comfiest undies around the house, as well as out and about – they are comfy after all! The issue is that our comfiest undies may be daggy, stretched out, and holey, not particularly attractive to look at.
While your partner may find this amusing, they may not find it particularly “sexy” (or maybe they do, lucky you!).
Take some time out and buy some nice new underwear, ones that are comfy, but also make you look great. It will instantly make you feel sexier, and make sure to show your partner to see what they think!
There’s something that is truly caring and connecting about washing someone else. This act of great love is something that many people do not practice with their partners on a regular basis. Washing each other can also be a very sensual experience.
Pick up some nice bath or shower milk, for its silky and luxurious feel, and schedule in an evening where the two of you can share a shower or bath together – you never know where it might lead.
You could also give your other half a massage, gently remove the knots and stresses from their body and make them feel nice and relaxed.
Cook a special meal for your partner
Another base pleasure that can make us feel amazing is food. You know that warm, fuzzy, full feeling that we get after having our most favourite dish? You should try this out on your partner. And we’re not talking their favourite “at home” meal, which you’ve probably made countless times, but rather recreating something special they’ve had at a favourite restaurant.
Going to the effort of doing this shows your partner you love them, and the warm fuzzies they get after eating can be projected onto you, for some good times together.
Giving you significant a little extra attention, just because will make them feel so special and loved ad they may also wish to return the favour to you. And the cycle contiunes. Afer all all we need is love.