Whether you’re trying to attract a little attention in the search for a significant other, or you’re simply over being seen as ‘part of the furniture,’ getting noticed can be tricky. That’s why we’ve put together a list of suggestions to help you stand out (in the best of ways). Some of our tips are subtle (start with these first), and some are more challenging (build up to them). Enjoy ‘testing the water’ as you go, and don’t let unhelpful comments stand in your way of continuing to experiment!
Tops and bottom
There are hats, and then there are hats that get noticed! Which means it’s time to ditch the baseball cap and don the fedora, Panama or flat- or fisherman’s cap. When you’re heading indoors, be sure to take your hat off, but hold it close to you or place it on a surface, close by, where it can be seen. Better still, opt for outdoor settings where you can leave your hat on (an alfresco coffee- or restaurant-table, or a sunny park bench will do!).
Accessorize with socks that grab attention – but in a subtle way. This means setting aside the bland grey and brown hose, and going for colourful socks without being ‘over-the-top’ patterned (we’re talking here of classy, striped merinos). Crossing your legs lets your trouser leg ride up a little which will expose the colour.
Cafe culture
So, we all know you don’t go to the cafe for the coffee alone – right? The fact is, we’re a nation of people-watchers! To be noticed at your local, head there on a daily basis, and always at the same time and at the same table. You’ll be surprised at how soon other regulars notice you. (And how handy someone who may be interested in you will know where to find you, and when!)
Up the attention-grabbing by doing something more interesting than simply sipping your coffee – and again – make a habit of it. Reading a book (never the newspaper) invites interest, and sets you ‘apart’ as an interesting person, and someone who has leisure time (i.e. time to spend with another) to spare. Or you might like to take a journal (never a small notebook) with you, to write in (that always gets others curious).
Try to have an item of interest, in view, on the seat next to you. If you’re a musician, take along the violin or trumpet case (no one’s going to know you’re not on your way to rehearsal). A brief case is always intriguing, as is a camera, a beautifully wrapped gift (no matter if the box doesn’t contain anything), or a bunch of florist flowers (if they’re admired by someone who takes your eye, you can always give them to them!).
Break the mould
Nothing grabs attention more than the anomaly, so step outside the square with what you wear and how you present yourself. Don’t be afraid to skip a few hair cuts (after all, Peter Jackson does!) – but always dress immaculately. Don a great suit, but forget your shoes, and wear sandals or bare feet instead.
Be kind and considerate
If you’re not in the habit of holding doors open for others, pulling back chairs to help someone get seated, taking coats or hats, or generally being outwardly caring, now is the time to start. Begin with doing it for people you know – those you may not know will be watching (even from the distance of another table!) and taking note. And who wouldn’t be interested in someone who’s so thoughtful towards their friends!
Getting the attention you deserve won’t happen without effort on your part – but when you focus on the little things, you may be surprised by your own success!
