There was a steep gravel hill we had to scale on the way home. It always felt touch-and-go whether we would make it up; at times we needed multiple attempts. Grandad would put the Ute into four-wheel wheel drive mode, then rev it to the hilt, and up we would go. The wheels were spinning and the engine sounded like it was going to burst out of the bonnet. But we always made it up in the end. We knew our Grandad would find a way.
Other times it was fishing, music, and watching rugby together. He was President of the New Zealand Rugby Union in 1984. He taught me the value of hard work, honesty and the importance of family. Every afternoon at four o’clock, he would sit with Grandma as they sipped their gin and tonics and told us stories about their younger years. These experiences, etched in my consciousness were a valuable part of my education growing up.
As a father of four children and a school teacher, I would like to offer some practical thoughts about how you as a grandparent can support the learning of your grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
Firstly, thank you all those grandparents who take an active interest in the education of their grandchildren. This is the foundation; a relationship must be built, a connection made. Talk with your them about what they are learning as you help them with their homework. Allow them to explain, perform and show off. Children embed their learning by explaining it to others.
Most schools have an events calendar on their website, where you can plan the events you would like to attend. Celebrate and enjoy your grandchildren as they participate in school competitions; be the leader of their fan club. Also, look out for the annual Grandparents Day that a number of schools now facilitate.
Modern technology is not a silver bullet for learning. Don’t worry if you are not up to date with the latest technological developments. Computers and personal devices are no match for a thoughtfully delivered story by a grandparent; especially those of a personal nature. Tell them funny stories about when you were young. Traditions create lasting memories. In mid-January each year, our extended family have an annual blueberry picking day, where we pick enough blueberries to last for the next 12 months. We also have an annual family picnic which has a different theme each year, such as the Pirongia Clydesdales, Waitomo Caves, or the Waihi Goldfields Railway. Having lived through a number of life’s stages, you are able see the big picture.
