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HONESTY is the best policy. Honesty – not emotional criticism
Obviously there’s a very fine line between being honest and giving criticism. So it comes as no surprise that so many conflicts may start from a piece of honest feedback that can be accidentally taken as criticism.
We were all taught by our parents to tell the truth, no matter what. But sometimes what we perceive as truth may hurt some people. Every single person’s truth is very different, and we must remember and respect that.
Speaking of how to kill conflict through being honest, sometimes it’s very easy, in a conflict, to get into the nitty gritty and criticise, and technically just not get anywhere productive. What I’m suggesting, is to step aside from the petty comments and small things that are bugging you, and focus on the big picture in the conflict. By focusing on being honest, and only touching on the facts you saw/felt/knew happened, you can manage to keep the conversation much shorter and much more productive. No one wants to be locked up inside arguing all day, so take every opportunity (this advice being one of them) to keep the conflict less time consuming, and more results oriented.
Don’t jump into emotional criticism – it’s just not productive enough for your precious time. Keep it simple, keep it honest, keep it short. The other person also needs to understand where you’re coming from, so stick to the facts, and best of luck to ya!
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