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WORDS: think before you speak…I think we ALL got taught that at primary school
Although in the previous point I did mention that words make up 7% of influence over the message you’re trying to send in an entire dialogue that you have, the choice of words that you use can be very powerful.
Think about this: with swear words, you realistically only need one or two in a ‘conversation’, and it brings doom and gloom to the entire thing. Such is the power of words, so why can’t we use positive words with such assertiveness? If one word can open up conflict, shouldn’t there be an antidote? Is it really impossible to spend the same amount of time, i.e. saying just one word to turn a negative conversation into a positive, just like we can turn a positive conversation into a negative with one swear word?
Choosing our words carefully is something we were all taught many, many years ago at school. My teachers’ voices still ring inside my head: “Think before you speak”, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say it”…and so on.
In no way am I saying for you to run to the nearest Thesaurus and build your vocabulary up with big words, but what I am saying is find those positive words in your vocabulary, and next time you find yourself in a conflict, USE THEM! Instead of criticism, say something kind. Instead of answering back with something on the same angry level as the other person, stop and think how you can turn the situation around by offering a suggestion, a solution, a compliment, or at the very, very least changing the subject to a positive virtue or event.
So what are the positive words we can use?
What is the most powerful positive word you’ve used lately? Was there something you said that changed the entire conflict around for you?
Keep positive. Remember, everything will be OK in the end. If it’s not OK, it’s not the end.
Trust You Future!
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