By Denise Corlett.
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You’ve reached the end of your tether. Another disappointing night out! Either you didn’t see/meet anyone of interest OR you did and they just didn’t reciprocate your level of interest.
Frustration, despair and that old feeling of “Is there anyone right for me out there?” comes up.
Is there anything you can do differently when the usual places to meet a date aren’t working anymore? Do you completely give it up in disgust OR can you remedy this?
Of course you can!
There are so many things you can do to change this situation around. The easiest and simplest way forward is to adapt the activity you’re involved in so it’s working more in your favour.
Let’s take an example of this. What if you have for years met prospective partners in bars and pubs? Now as you’ve got older and your friends have paired off, you’re finding that
- You’re not meeting as many singles in the same bars/pubs that you used to
- There are singles there, but at a different age group to you or not interested in you
- You can’t get many or any of your friends along with you
So what do you do? Bars and pubs could still be a great avenue to meet other singles. However, it’s about adapting and changing the situation around to your benefit. This takes some creative thinking and brainstorming to see how it could work to your advantage. Some quick solutions could include:-
- Checking out if your local pub/bar has specific nights or times of the day when those in your age group are more likely to attend
- Checking out if they have singles events
- Checking out other pubs/bars in your region that might have singles events or others attending in your age group
- Checking out if pubs/bars in your region have a variety of activities that could encourage socialising and potentially meeting other singles – e.g. pub quiz nights, speed dating events for your age group
- Attending your local pub/bar less regularly and adding in other activities where you could meet singles
- Organising your friends/family members (single or paired up) to get together at your local bar/pub and for each person to bring along at least one single friend
- Befriending other locals at your pub/bar. You might be surprised to find that they have another single friend/sister/cousin/colleague etc who could be a good match for you
The list goes on. The more you think about one single activity that you could adapt, the more you can start to create new ways of coming across someone special for you. Yes you do have to brainstorm. You may need to get assistance to do this part of it. But either way, there can be very positive spin-offs for you.
Add into that the desire and motivation to make those enquiries and changes, put in the effort and take action and you should see some of those usual places that weren’t working for you anymore, work to your advantage.
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Denise Corlett, founder of Dating Advice, is an expert in helping professional men and women find, attract and be successful in relationships. For more dating advice information on how to get partnered go to DatingAdvice.co.nz.